July 19, 2018

Should We Have a Sweetheart Table: Pros and Cons

If you’re currently working on planning out your table arrangements, you might be wondering should we have a sweetheart table?. Sweetheart table or no sweetheart table might seem like a trivial wedding detail. However, there’s a lot more to it than one might think!
Should We Have a Sweetheart Table: Pros and Cons

Pros of Having a Sweetheart Table

A sweetheart table eliminates deciding who you, the bride and groom, will sit with. By sitting at your own designated table, you don’t have to worry about which friends or whose side of the family to sit with. This eliminates any potential hurt feelings.

When you and your new husband/wife are sitting alone, guests can easily come to you and chat. They won’t have to search the room to have a conversation with you. On the other hand, you might want to eat in peace and sitting with your bridal party makes it harder for guests to approach you while eating.

If you would rather go around and talk to your guests as they eat instead of them coming to you, a sweetheart table is also a good idea. No one will feel as though you are abandoning them to talk to other people. If you’re sitting with friends and family, you might feel inclined to stay seated and talk with them instead of spreading your time amongst all of your guests.
Black and white romantic bride and groom portrait during their wedding reception, Cavin Elizabeth Photography

Cons of Having a Sweetheart Table

By sitting at your own table, you’ll always be the center of attention, whether you like it or not. If you don’t like the idea of people watching you while you eat, it might be a good idea to skip the sweetheart table.

A sweetheart table makes you very accessible to guests. If you want to eat in peace for 10-15 minutes to relax and recharge, it will be more difficult as guests often feel free to approach the table for some 1-1 time. If you’re seated with your bridal party, you’re less likely to be approached by other guests as they’ll wait for you to go to them.

If you’re sitting alone, you won’t have as much time to socialize with your bridal party – the typical attendants at a head table with the bride and groom. If you want more time with them, then a sweetheart table won’t give that to you.
Mid-century modern sweetheart tableCoronado Community Center Wedding reception by Coastyle Events, sophisticated sports vintage themed decor with blue red yellow and peach and green, Cavin Elizabeth Photography

Other Considerations

  • You should consider the configuration of your venue, tables, and dance area. Be sure to talk to your venue and coordinator when deciding if a sweetheart table is a good or bad fit for your reception space.
  • If you decide to have a sweetheart table, consider placing it nearby your close friends and family, instead of isolating yourselves completely. This way you can interact with them while still having your own table.
  • To avoid having guests repeatedly interrupt your meal, make sure you are served first and consider eating rather quickly so that you can go to your guests’ tables first instead of them coming to you.

Of course, you should appreciate and honor your wedding guests, as they have made an effort to be a part of your special day. Just remember that the wedding is first and foremost about you and your new husband or wife enjoying your day and dinner.
Toasts and speeches, Ethereal Open Air Resort Wedding Reception, Cavin Elizabeth Photography