March 19, 2020

How to Write Your Own Wedding Vows by Beatrix Potter

Today’s guest blog comes from Beatrix Potter. She shares her tips on how to write your own wedding vows, so if you need excellent guidance on your vow writing then this post was made for you!

How to Write Your Own Wedding Vows by Beatrix Potter. Expert tips to help you personalize your wedding vows without stress! 
Personal wedding vows make a wedding ceremony extra special. Writing your own vows is a great way to emphasize how committed you are to your life together. Whatever faith, or non-faith, the ceremony you are having is, your handwritten vows make the moment truly intimate.

Importantly, make extra sure that your fiance is on board and comfortable with writing their own vows too. Talk about your process for writing notes and agree on a tone. You want to avoid one of you coming off super loved up and mushy and the other one over the top with humor and anecdotes.

Couple reading vows during ceremony, Ceremony on grassy lawn with white chairs, aisle arrangements with ivory, pink, and lavender arrangements, ceremony white draping with large arrangement of roses on top of the arch, Lodge at Torrey Pines wedding, film photography by Cavin Elizabeth Photography 

Write Everything Down

Getting started with your vows can be worrying. Rest assured though that you do not need to be an award-winning writer to write vows. You only need to be in love.

“To get started with your vow writing, you have to just start. There are no bad ideas when you are getting out thoughts for a first draft,”, says Eda Paine, a  journalist at Academized Review and Paper Fellows. “The only person reading the notes is you. Don’t be embarrassed, get everything out and then edit out the bits you don’t need”.  Also, carry a small notepad to scribble down cute memories and loved up thoughts as you have them.

Bride and groom first kiss in front of a Pergola wrapped in greenery with blush flowers on the side columns and hanging blush and ivory flowers in the center. Rancho Bernardo Inn Aragon lawn wedding ceremony. Film photo by Cavin Elizabeth Photography 

How To Find Wedding Vow Inspiration

For inspiration, look through old pictures and mementos from your relationship. If you already share a home take a walk around it. Think about what it is like living with your fiance. Think about the perks, the special moments that make your life together one that you want to commit to. Alternatively, take a wander around some of your favorite date night haunts. It is completely acceptable to take inspiration for what you do (and don’t) want from traditional vows too.

Bride and groom smiling at each other during ceremony. Circular ceremony arch with silver dollar eucalyptus, white dahlias and roses. Estancia La Jolla wedding shot on film by Cavin Elizabeth Photography 

Remember You Are Making Vows

A vow is a promise to your loved one. An easy point to miss when writing your own vows, believe me. Think about what kind of spouse you want to be. What kind of life you want to build with your fiance. How you see yourself supporting them, maybe with their ambitions, dreams. What, if any, adventures you want to go on together. Got them? Great, now write them out as promises. Like this “Will, I promise to support you as you build your tech-empire. To listen to every client pitch with enthusiasm and to be your cheerleader every day.”

Bride and father walking down the aisle of a forest. Full Belly Farm ceremony on Martha Stewart Weddings by film photographer Cavin Elizabeth Photography 

5 Questions that Can Help You Write Your Own Wedding Vows

Wedding writer Nicki Levison from Custom Writing and Research Paper Writing Service says that asking yourself these five questions is a great way to get the ideas flowing. “Sometimes all you need is one idea to set the rest flowing out. Start with these questions to take away that fear of writing,” says Levison:

1. What was life like before you met your fiance?
2. What made you fall for them?
3. What are your 3 favorite traits of their personality?
4. How do they make you feel?
5. What are you looking forward to most about your life married together?

There is no time like the present to get started with your wedding vows. Grab a notepad and pen and start scribbling!

Groom smiling at the bride during the wedding ceremony. Miramonte Resort ceremony on Miramonte Green. Film photography by Cavin Elizabeth. 
Beatrix Potter is a professional writer at BoomEssays and History Essay Help services. Bea writes about weddings and event planning and also tutors at Essay help Australia website. When she’s not writing, Bea can be found cooking or reading at her lakeside getaway.