March 7, 2019

Maid of Honor Speech Tips for Giving a Great Toast

One of the biggest honors you can give a bride at her wedding is a toast as her maid of honor. Today’s post covers my maid of honor speech tips. Firstly, be sure that if a bride asks you to do give a toast, you take it very seriously. She is trusting you to represent and toast her and her partner to all of the guests.
Maid of Honor Speech Tips for Giving a Great Toast 

Toast Prep Timing

Consider writing the speech 2-3 weeks ahead of time, so that you know exactly what you want to say and have time to practice. You want to be as natural as possible when the day comes. Remember, writing multiple drafts never hurts!

Keep your speech under 4 minutes. This is just enough time to keep people engaged and interested and plenty of time for you to get out the great words you have to say. The reason to keep it short and sweet has to do with the other toasters at the wedding, such as the best man and parents of the bride and/or groom. No guest wants to sit through more than 20 minutes of toasts, no matter how good they are.
Toasts at Temecula Wedding at Villa De Amore, Cavin Elizabeth Photography 

Toast Content

Be sure to include personal touches in your speech. You don’t want it to be inappropriate or embarrassing, however, people love to hear fun stories about the bride and groom. Try not to forget the groom when you are talking, consider telling a story about the bride and a second one about the bride and the groom.

Consider your audience. You are speaking to friends and family of the bride and groom, there’s a potential that a majority of people don’t even know who you are. Elaborate correctly on what you are saying. Remember that everyone might not have the same background knowledge on the bride as you do, so preface stories with helpful background information.

Bride and sister hugging and crying after toasts, Toasts at San Diego Botanic Garden wedding, Cavin Elizabeth Photography 


If you are close with the bride’s parents, thank them for everything they have done for you. And don’t forget to thank the couple! They are the reason you are up there speaking in the first place and your friendships probably mean the world to each other. Use these maid of honor speech tips, and you’ll be sure to wow the crowd!